When I stop to think about the girls (or should I say women) whom I consider to be my close friends, one things stands out in common. Their age! They are all younger than me, the biggest gap being probably 12 years. I have acquaintances who are more or less my own age, but maybe just 2 or 3 with whom I have a really good friendship, mostly because of the history we share (oh my! that makes me sound really old, doesn’t it?).
I’m not sure why this is so. Maybe I’m just immature. One of those popular online tests that tell you what your real mental age is (just like they tell you what city you should live in, or what Shakespearean character you are) revealed that my mental age was all of 19. I remember myself at 19. I was terrible. Perhaps my mental age at that time was 8 or 9 or something. (If there was one thing I could tell my 19-year old self, it would be “Just chill, everything’s gonna work out just fine.”) If I were this mature at 19, I think I’d be a different person altogether!
Or maybe I harbour a secret desire to be looked upto. Having younger friends makes me feel older and wiser, yes? Bah! Hardly!
I think the real reason why I ended up with younger friends is simply because I started “family life” later than most of my counterparts. So Lil D’s friends’ mothers automatically became my friends too, and they were all much younger. This however doesn’t explain the online friendships I made, with almost all folks younger than me.
I can vouch for a fact that having younger friends makes me feel young. I have learnt so much from them, their youthful confidence, their different points of view, and their different outlooks to life. Whether it is related to parenting or my own self or my other relationships, chilling out with a younger crowd has helped me overcome many unconscious and self-imposed restraints. It has helped me become a better person. I feel it gives me best of both worlds, and I am able to balance the sobriety of an older generation with the enthusiasm of a younger one.
So here’s to all my young friends, who bring me so much joy and who help me stay young at heart. If there’s one thing I can offer you, it’s the consolation that I will always be older than you! 🙂